Easier said than done!
As wonderful as this vision appears, the obstacles to achieving it can seem insurmountable. Overwhelm, insecurity, and feelings of inadequacy, may consume you as you grow. And these fears if not conquered, may even prevent you from hearing your inner calling to greatness. Add to this mix the sense that there’s just not enough time, and it’s a wonder you’ve achieved as much as you have!
I get it! I’ve been there too.
My innate talent was enough to get my career started. I earned several promotions years before I got the college degree expected for a leadership role. However, my rise to success eclipsed the personal resources I had to manage it.
So I hit the books in search of answers. I remember reading The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership by John Maxwell, and Getting Things Done by David Allen. I also attended my first leadership conference. Applying these resources enabled me to ride the wave of opportunity I found myself on.
Now in my late thirties, I’ve held corporate leadership positions including National Director for the largest emergency medical services company in the United States. Plus, not only have I worked in large companies I’ve worked on large companies. Working alongside C-suite executives, I was instrumental in merges and acquisitions process.
“If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two imposters just the same…
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it…”
However, as Rudyard Kipling describes in the poem IF, life did challenge me to meet both Triumph and Disaster with the same resolve.
Just as my career was taking off, my wife who I’ve now been married to for 14 years was diagnosed with cancer. At the time I was a workaholic and best friends with every drive-thru restaurant between the office and home. As much as I loved Whitney and my 20-month old daughter, I hardly saw them!
Work life balance was just a trendy phrase, and I was on a road that leads to self-destruction. It wasn’t just that my wife was sick, we were sick, and something had to give. The following six-months changed everything. My company allowed me to work from home, and I was able to focus on what mattered most, caring for my wife and daughter. And I decided to approach my personal life, with the same energy and strategies that had made me successful at work.
Faith, my mentors, and my willingness to grow and change, brought my family through that dark period. My struggle also connected me more deeply with the challenges experienced by my work colleagues—and in the process I became more valuable to them.
Feedback to say I’d had made a major impact in the lives of some of my colleagues, became a theme. And these humbling experiences led me to become professionally qualified in the art and science of business and leadership coaching.
As of today the view from where I’m standing is good. My relationship with my wife is stronger than ever, and my two young daughters are blossoming. I continue to advance in my career, and I prioritize my health like never before. Beyond mere recreation, or occupation, I’ve found my vocation—helping people like you become all that they can be.
Who would you become as your best self?
You’re not obliged to suffer personal tragedy to grow and become more, but it certainly focuses the mind. You do however need to recognize where you’re at in life, and get clear on what actions are going to move the needle.
The chances are you’re so intimately involved in your own life that at times you can’t see the forest through the trees. This is where a great coach and mentor earns his stripes.
As I started out by saying, you are indeed unique but your quest and the challenges you face a long the way are not. You walk in the footsteps of the great men and women who went before you, and they left their best thinking and strategies as breadcrumbs for you to follow.
You may be a C-Suite executive or just breaking into management, you may be a seasoned entrepreneur or launching your first venture. Whatever success you’ve achieved, I’m uniquely qualified to help you get to the next level you desire.
Whether I’m available to work with directly or not at this time, please understand it’s essential you work with great coaches and mentors if you are to become all that you can be—and that there is no greater return, than on an investment in yourself.
As the 19th century America poet Henry David Thoreau wrote in his book Walden, “The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation”. To which the late Robin Williams retorted in his role in Dead Poets Society, “Don’t be resigned to that. Break out!”